The Beauty of Mother’s Day

10 05 2015

Waking up this morning was calm. I am in a house, not on a commercial fishing boat out on the sea.

There was a remnant of a dream about alignment.

Oh, yes, mental note, remember to have the wheels on the mini-van rotated to avoid an alignment issue.

Mother’s Day!

The sun is shining, birds are chirping, and there are feathers all over my bedroom.

Still.

A large decorative pillow came loose at a seam, maybe a week ago now, and somehow the four cats discovered this one afternoon while I was preoccupied somewhere else.

Feathers everywhere. Big mess, happy cats.

In years past, this would have made me cranky. Another mess to clean up. These days, it puts a smile on my face.

Reminding me of the joys of home and pet ownership. The trappings of domestic life.

Messes, in all their glory, are part of being a mom!

Feather clean-up can never come before coffee. Especially on Mother’s Day!

The house is quiet, kids are sleeping after a full day of Sequim Irrigation Festival activities yesterday.

My son spent most of yesterday with his grandmother, my mother.

My husband spent the day before Mother’s Day fishing off of the West Coast. I spent the day in Poulsbo at Viking House with other mothers at play, painting pictures.

My daughter spent the day with friends.

Last night, I watched two old episodes of “House”, had a bit of Ben and Jerry’s Half-Baked ice cream and waited a while for my daughter to come home.

My beautiful girl had tidied the kitchen and family room, my mother had said, while I was away enjoying a day in Poulsbo with friends.

She does that. My daughter. She cares about others.

I went to bed hoping my girl was having a wonderful evening with her friends. Her birth made me a mother eighteen years ago.

Leaving the feather mess behind in the master bedroom this morning, moving past sleeping son and daughter, I made my way downstairs in my blue unicorn pajama pants and one of my husband’s white T-shirts.

The  little gray tabby looks up sleepily from a curled up position in the family room. I am her person.

On the kitchen counter was this:

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A Mother’s Day gift from my daughter

I read the card that my daughter had made. The words, from her heart, made me cry.

Heading back upstairs, I found her curled up in bed. She smiled, half-asleep. As I tucked the aqua flannel top sheet around  her shoulders, I asked my girl if she wanted Wilbur, her cat. A nod for an answer.

Back downstairs, outside on the lid of the hot tub, is the resting form of an orange tabby. He gets scooped up in my arms and delivered to my daughter’s bedroom. Wilbur is delighted!

I peak in my son’s room and he is still sleeping. The black and white elderly tuxedo cat, Jackie, is resting on his sleeping form.

I quietly head back downstairs to make coffee.

A text message comes in from my husband wishing me Happy Mother’s  Day. 

My husband  is on the ocean, commercial fishing for King Salmon. It is a comfort to know he is  safe.

The cat which prefers my husband’s company, the long-haired orange tabby named Mango (Wilbur’s brother) is still out in the fields hunting. He misses my husband. I will brush him and comfort him this evening.

I feel very honored to be a mother.

To embrace the trappings of domesticity on land.

It has been a contrast from a lot of my life commercial fishing on the sea and someday I expect to be back on the ocean.

What I also know to be true is that I would not give up a single moment of my life being a mom. Cats, feathers and all.

My two beautiful children are the greatest gift that I have ever known!





Gut Feelings, Salt Water and The Port Angeles Fishing Fleet (past and present)

18 03 2015

Pink petals from the ornamental plum tree floated by on a Southwest breeze outside the window, catching the eye of the fisherman’s wife inside. The grass was still damp, water droplets on the ends of the waving emerald grass blades glistening in the sun.

The fisherman had already left for the marina, dropping the boy off at school on the way. He was busy tracking down the reason for why the generator, freshly rewound, was producing too much voltage. The cell phone was a constant companion.

The generator issue would get sorted. The fisherman’s wife knew that. She knew to focus on mowing the lawn. Focus on keeping home life stable for the family.

It was transition time.

The fisherman expected to be starting the season in about two weeks. He’d be gone from home then. For possibly weeks at a time. He’d be away from the family, mostly, til the boy was out of school for the summer and able to go fishing. The fisherman’s wife expected to be back on the boat then also. The daughter was now an adult. Old enough to take care of herself either on the boat or at home on land. It was her responsibility to choose where to spend her time.

The boat haul-out had gone well.

All the troubles from a SE Alaska grounding in Icy Bay, a number of fishing seasons before, had finally been completely resolved over the past few Springs in the boat yard.

It was a relief, to the fisherman and his wife, that things were back to the way they should be.

A quick haul-out.

A new stern bearing zinc and fresh blue bottom paint. The red boot stripe giving a nod to the past.

The master welder in the Port of Port Angeles Boatyard had been enlisted to repair a hole in the hull. The one which had happened in a head-on collision, in fog, in California two summers before. The new aluminum pole work brightly reflected the sun. Holes in the generator exhaust pipe had been found in the engine room.

Serious business. Life-threatening.

Holes in exhaust pipe, especially in an engine room, are very bad. Potentially deadly. A local fisherman that the fishing couple had known years before, had died due to carbon monoxide poisoning in an enclosed wheelhouse of a boat. It was why a carbon monoxide detector had been installed on their boat.

The fisherman’s wife had known, earlier that year, that the boat needed to be home for Spring boat work. A gut feeling. She did not know why until she saw the holes in the old exhaust pipe.

Those gut feelings. Any fisherman, any parent, any master craftsman responsible for repairing a working boat – pays attention to them.

In the commercial fishing industry, gut feelings are often the difference between life and death.

After the exhaust pipe had been replaced, there had been a very short impromptu meeting in the boatyard the day that the fisherman and his wife watched their boat being re-launched. For the fisherman, it would be the 45th consecutive Spring that he had been involved in putting a commercial fishing boat in the water. As for his wife, she did not know any different. She had been raised in the fleet.

The master welder was at the small gathering. Also, a newer commercial fisherman that made most of his money in a white collar trade. The new guy had just hauled his boat and was getting ready to pressure hose the bottom. His coding partner was there too.

It was the coding partner that the fisherman’s wife had the most respect for when it came to trolling. He was one of the last. One of the last commercial salmon trollers left in the Port Angeles fleet. He said so himself. He was also one of the last to get into fishing having started as a partner with a brother, and also learning the trade as a deckhand.

It was a near impossible task anymore.

Good boats and permits had become too expensive for most young folks to break into the trade. He had done it the hard way, the old way, the traditional way. That is why the fisherman’s wife respected him so much.

He had crewed for one of the greatest salmon trolling highliners that the West Coast would ever produce. His former captain was one of the “Royal Family”. At 91-years-old, this skipper had passed away just a few weeks before.

The “Royal Family” of the West Coast troll fleet.

The last one of the foursome still living, out of the four highliners in the West Coast troll fleet that comprised “The Royal Family”, was the main subject during that mucky muck meeting in the Port Angeles Boatyard that day. He was an icon, this now 93-year-old master fisherman, all agreed.

The best of the best.

There was no one in the Port Angeles fishing fleet, past or present, that did not look up to him. No one.

A week before the fisherman’s wife made it a point to go with her man and her young son, to meet him, where he was currently residing in a nursing home.

To thank him.

She did not have much of a chance, to extend gratitude. The wise mentor was still teaching. Without missing a beat from their last visit,  the retired master fisherman  asked her husband what he did when he wasn’t working on the boat.  He talked about how he himself had cleared property for a Girl Scout camp out at Lake Sutherland because his two daughters were Girl Scouts.

The mentor said, “You can’t work on the boat every day”.

In that moment, the fisherman’s wife had a strong gut feeling that she and her husband would grow old together.

Moving forward a week, back into the boat yard. A plan was made, in the Port Angeles Boatyard that day, to visit the retired fleet elder. How to support his wife. As often as possible. All agreed, there was a need to give back.

A copy of the historical West Coast trolling documentary, “Coming Home Was Easy”, was handed to the new guy in the fleet, now getting ready for his third fishing season. A Jimmi Hendrix hoochie along with it.

Another copy of the commercial fishing  documentary would be put on the hatch cover of a 47′ wood troller tied up in the Port Angeles boat basin within the next few days. For the fellow that fished the boat. One of the best salmon trollers that the West Coast fishing fleet would likely ever produce. His former skipper was interviewed in that documentary.

The title of that West Coast fishing documentary, “Coming Home Was Easy”, were words that belonged to the father of the fisherman’s wife.

She typed on the laptop keyboard the Oregon State University web-address of where the video could be purchased:

http://seagrant.oregonstate.edu/sgpubs/coming-home-was-easy-video

In the video, she knew, was video footage of a cherry tree. It represented the cherry tree in the backyard of the Port Angeles home where she grew up.

The fisherman’s wife looked out the window. The breeze had backed off and the blossoms from the plum tree in the backyard had quit falling. The grass was drying and she needed to mow the lawn.

She hoped her daughter would fish with her husband that upcoming season. At least for a trip. Everyone in the boatyard agreed, that would be good. Living on the boat would come back to her first-born. The fisherman’s wife felt that in her gut. She knew. The fishing couple had taken their  daughter up the Inside Passage, from Port Angeles, when she was an 8-month-old baby.  Their girl would fish the entire season with them that year, in SE Alaska for 5 1/2 months, away from their house in Sequim, WA.

The fisherman’s wife hoped her son would have a chance to fish a boat on his own before the Port Angeles fishing fleet disappeared entirely. She hoped it never would. Disappear entirely. That future, however, was not for her to know.

My husband and son with an ocean-caught King Salmon aboard the Saint Jude. Fishing Season 2013.

My husband and son with an ocean-caught King Salmon aboard the Saint Jude. Fishing Season 2013.

She had kids to think about. Boat kids.

Fishing is in the blood. Once a boat kid, always a boat kid.

The fisherman’s wife had that very conversation with the master welder that had fixed the boat. He had been a fisherman in Canada, near the Yukultas, decades before. A salmon troller. His boys had spent time fishing on his boat when they were very young. Once again, the trust the fisherman and his wife had placed in him to make the boat right, would quite possibly mean the difference between a good fishing season and a poor fishing season. His work, the difference between life and death.

The master welder, too, had been given a copy of “Coming Home Was Easy”.

Salt Water

As she observed the last remaining shimmering water drops on the green blades of grass outside, tears sprang into the eyes of the fisherman’s wife. The hue of her tears held exactly the same rainbow colors, reflecting in the light, as that on the scales of a fresh ocean-caught King Salmon.